Category Archives: Women In Islam
Be wise and choose wisely.
May Allah Give us righteous spouses and children who are the coolness of our eyes.
Do you know why it’s important for parents to be righteous, and the context of this verse ‘and their father had been righteous’?
This verse is in Surah Al Kahf, and in it Allaah tells us how He sent Khidr with Musa a.s to fix a wall that belonged to orphans, who had no idea that two of the best men in the world were doing something for them that would Protect them, because Allah had sent them for that express purpose!
‘And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the city, and there was beneath it a treasure for them, and their father had been righteous. So your Lord intended that they reach maturity and extract their treasure, as a mercy from your Lord.’- Surah Al Kahf.
Choose a righteous spouse and work righteousness yourself so that Allah Will Protect and Bless all your descendents in ways you cannot imagine, iA.
“…And live with them in kindness…”-Quran (4:19)
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” Ar-Rum 30:21)
“The best among you are those who are best to their wife. (Ibn Majah)
“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.” (Tirmidhi)
“The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman.” (Sahih Muslim 1467)
“…good women (are) for good men, and good men (are) for good women.”-Quran (24:26)
“And we created you in pairs.”-Quran (78:4)
Hazrat Umar Ibn Al Khattab (R.A.) said:
“No man can have anything better after faith (Iman) than a woman of righteous character, loving and child-bearing.”
Provide for her, protect her and take care of her:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”-Quran (4:34).
Look after her and your children:
“What you feed yourself is charity for you, what you feed your children is charity for you, what you feed your wife is charity for you, and what you feed your servant is charity for you.” (Musnad Ahmad 16727) You need to take care of them, look after them all.
Prophet (SAW) even encouraged people to feed their wives with their own hands, Prophet (SAW) many times fed Aisha (R.A.) this way. “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.” (Sahih Al Bukhari)
Express your love to her:
Anas (R.A.) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) was asked, ‘O Messenger of Allah, which of the people is most beloved to you?’
He answered: “`A’ishah.”
He was asked, ‘And among men?’
He said: ‘Her father.‘ (Ibn Majah and authenticated by Shayk Al-Albani)
Mu’aawiyah Ibn Haydah (R.A.) said: “I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah (SAW), what is the right of the wife of any one of us over us?’ He said: ‘That you should feed her as you feed yourself and clothe her as you clothe yourself, that you should not say to her “May Allah make your face ugly!” and that you should not beat her.” (Reported by Abu Dawood, 2/244; Ibn Maajah, 1850; Ahmad, 4/446). You need to feed her, provide for her and take care of her.
The type of person you marry plays a big role in the type of children you have, so do your unborn children a favor by choosing wisely.
Source : IslamicKnowledge.com / 4 Mar 2013
Selecting a Spouse
The first thing we should look for when marrying is how committed the person is to Islam. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, beauty, nobility, or religiousness (adherence to Islam), but choose a religious woman and you will prosper.” (Sahih Muslim) Read the rest of this entry
By IslamReligion.com / 7 Mar 2013
Allah instructs men to be nice to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability:
“…And live with them in kindness…” (Quran 4:19)
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, ‘The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character. The best of you are those who are the best to their women.’ [Al-Tirmidhi]
Source : Agencies / 16 Mar 2013
What is Aqiqah?
‘Aqīq consists of giving a name to the baby, shaving its hair, and offering a sacrifice. It is recommended that the new-born baby should be given either a compound name containing one of the most beautiful names of Allah (e.g. ‘Abd al-Hamīd), or the name of holy figures. Read the rest of this entry
Source : Islamic Life / 20 Feb 2014
Allah creates the children with pure innate nature, without defects and whatever defects that happens later on is the result of the bad education. prophet Muhammad(S.A.W.) said, ‘‘Every new born has the correct instinct, his parents make him Jewish, Christian or a fire worshipper.” Read the rest of this entry
Source : Sherin Saad / 26 Oct 2013
By Khafayah Abdulsalam / 23 Mar 2013
Our children are an amanah (trust) on to us from Allah: it’s our duty to nurture, educate and protect them as they grow into productive adults. Read the rest of this entry
By Ahlam Yassin / 13 Sep 2013
The back to school season is in full swing and you’re probably already readjusting to busy school days, the anticipation of new lessons learned and the happy (and sometimes not so happy) stories that come home with your child everyday. It can get pretty hectic and overwhelming. That’s why I’ve asked some pretty busy moms their productivity hacks for maintaining order, reducing stress and keeping their sanity. Enjoy and please implement! Read the rest of this entry
By Hina Khan-Mukhtar | SeekersGuidance | 21 Jun 2012
I still vividly remember the first night I spent by myself in the hospital after delivering my eldest son Shaan. The guests were gone for the day, the hallway lights were dimmed, the nurses were speaking outside my room in muted tones. Read the rest of this entry
By Andrew M. Seaman / 19 Aug 2013
Children who drink soda tend to score slightly higher on scales that measure aggressive behavior than kids who don’t drink the carbonated beverages, according to a new study. Read the rest of this entry
By Sadaf Farooqi / 9 Apr 2013
Out of all the hi-fi, over-hyped, glamorized, overpaid and stereotyped careers that make news today, peppered with extensive media attention such as red-carpet awards, talk-shows, exclusive interviews and photo-shoots, the single most important and pivotal occupation a person – especially a woman – can have, is that of being a parent.
By Sana Gul / 16 Apr 2013
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said, “When a group of people assemble for the remembrance of Allah (glorified and exalted be He), the angels surround them (with their wings), (Allah’s) mercy envelops them, Sakinah or tranquility descends upon them and Allah makes a mention of them before those who are near Him.” [Sahih Muslim].
Source: Hilalplaza / 4 Feb 2013
Children are easily influenced by their surroundings. These days, it is extremely difficult to expose our children to an ideal Islamic environment given the influences from media, friends and even other members of the family.
With television, radio, Internet and forms of media mostly touting un-Islamic values, it is up to parents and adults close to the children to set the correct example. Read the rest of this entry
By Sofia Nasir / 18 Mar 2013
Motherhood is a blessing which has been given to us by Allah (glorified and exalted be He). It’s full of ups and downs, tears and laughs. At times tiring, other times energising. Let’s face it, being a mother in the 21st century is not easy; so here are a few tips to keep you on your toes.
What is motherhood? The responsibility of nurturing a child. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) stated: ’Paradise lies at the feet of your mother’ [Sunan An-Nasâ’i]. Read the rest of this entry
by Hina Khan-Mukhtar | SeekersGuidance | 21 Jun 2012
I still vividly remember the first night I spent by myself in the hospital after delivering my eldest son Shaan. The guests were gone for the day, the hallway lights were dimmed, the nurses were speaking outside my room in muted tones.
“Knock, knock!” came a cheerful voice from the doorway. “Someone’s hungry and wants his mommy!”
The nurse wheeled in the crib that held my newborn, only a few hours old at the time. She cooed over him as I struggled to sit up, then efficiently handed him into my waiting arms, bustling out of the room after giving me a few words of encouragement.
By Maryam Hedayat | islam.ru | 13 Jul 2013
Children are one of the most precious and greatest gifts of Allah. And to raise them in a good manner is every parent’s responsibility.
Children are a trust given to the parents. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and religious teachings of their children.
However, raising children seems to be the most essential and perhaps the most difficult effort in today’s modern life. Read the rest of this entry
By Ali-Gomaa.com / 30 May 2013
Does Islam give a father the right to force his daughter to marry someone that she doesn’t want to marry? Can a woman end a marriage in Islam or is that solely the right of the man? Read the rest of this entry
Source : Navedz.com / 24 Apr 2013
“A father cannot give a better gift to his child than a good education.” (Tirmidhi)
Becoming a parent was an amazing experience. Good parenting is like being a Good Muslim – both require continuous struggles to stay focused on our goals (that is, if we take the time to even set them in the first place), being conscious of the consequences of our choices, an ongoing and honest evaluation of ourselves, and the best efforts to improve our condition. Read the rest of this entry
By ISWM / 6 May 2013
Umar ibn Wasil al-Basri that Sahl al-Tustari said: “My uncle once told me:`Remember Allah Who created you.’ I said: `How should I remember him?’ He replied: `Say in your heart, whenever you are alone at night, three times, without moving your tongue: Allah is with me; Allah is looking at me; Allah is watching me.” Read the rest of this entry
Source : Shawuniversitymosque.org / 8 Mar 2013
Throughout the school year, parents usually ponder the skills that their children need to develop. Many parents choose to practice reading with their children, knowing that better reading skills bring better achievement in school and better understanding of life.
But, you ask, “How, in my hectic schedule, am I going to fit in time to sit down and read with my kids every night?” The solution is not to relegate reading to a specific time and place each day. Read the rest of this entry
Source : Productive Muslim / 11 Jun 2014
Children are a product of our society and the most valuable asset of our future. We, as adults, greatly influence how a child feels and behaves. We have the power to motivate and inspire them. We need to create a positive image about learning about our deen. The only way to achieve this is by leading by example. As a parent, you will have very little impact on your child’s want to learn if you do not make the effort to do the same. Read the rest of this entry
Source : IslamWeb / 02 June 2014
Cultivation in Islam is very important, for indeed all of the religion is based upon upbringing. It starts first of all with of our own selves, then of our families, and then of the community at large. But this cultivation is most important with respect to our children, so that they are brought up upon the correct path of Islam. Read the rest of this entry
source : Islamswomen.com / 25 Mar 2013
We often hear speakers in Friday prayer or in admonitions talking about Paradise and all of us find our hearts, minds and thoughts tuned on to that ‘frequency’. However, majority of the speakers talk about Paradise as if it were a house for men only. Reality is not like that. Paradise is for the believing men and women. The only price for it is sound belief in Allah, love of Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), and obedience to Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Read the rest of this entry
Sister Zohra Sarwari will be talking on “How the Qur’aan saved my Life and My Children’s Life!” In sha Allah
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem, I will be giving a lecture at the end of this month in CT in’sha’Allaah. If your in the area please do come out! Title is “How the Qur’aan saved my Life and My Children’s Life!”
In Islaam if one should get divorced they should do so with the best manners, respect… and dignity, as this is what the Prophet (Sallahe Alhee Wa Sallam) has taught us.
Lastly, once the divorce has taken place the man whom the woman divorced becomes a Non-Mahram, and vice versa. They are not to be alone anymore, they are not to joke around like before, etc. They are to be respectful and to stay away from each other.
The family of the one who has gone through the divorce should treat the woman or man who has been divorced from their family with respect but stay away from them. When the family of the woman talks to the man whom she has divorced or vice versa, it hurts the other person. We need to stay away from hurting others. Feelings and emotions are important to notice and to understand in Islaam. If we don’t care about how we make others feel, then Allaah may punish us, our kids or even grandkids in the way we punished others. Subhana’Allaah, we should always be aware of what we are doing and know that today we are doing it, tomorrow it may happen to us. So if you don’t want it to happen to you, then don’t do it to others.
May Allaah guide us all to goodness and make us amongst the righteous. Ameen. May He make our eman strong and help us do the right thing when circumstances expect it. Ameen.
We live in a world where our sphere of concern is greater than it has ever been, encompassing the entire globe fueled due to the advent of international news and the Internet. Meanwhile our sphere of influence has been ever shrinking due to the larger number of people cohabiting the world simultaneously and a loss of sense of community in many parts of the world with even the family unit breaking under a variety of stresses and pressures. Yet, despite our inability to influence the world, the state, the community or even our families, we generally still have a living environment which we have complete control over.
The environment we live in might be extremely polluted with un-Islamic people, culture, norms, forbidden activities and indulgences widespread. But the environment we spend those hours eating, sleeping and spending our idle time is of utmost importance simply because we do have the ability to control it. Our homes are a critical part of our life and the idiom “home is where the heart is” shows the great role it plays in our life, yet, more importantly, we should be aiming to draw near Allah . We should transform our homes so that remembering Allah is where our heart is, ultimately experiencing true peace and contentment.
What is an Islamic home? Can the modern home be Islamic? The answers to these questions must be derived from pearls of wisdom of the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad . Nearly all Islamic principles apply to the home given it is a place we spend so much of our time in; and should be our place of safety, security, grounding, peace of mind and recovery.
Attending to Neighborly Needs
Neighbors not only deserve kindness but they have many rights to it. One should bear in mind remembering their neighbors when considering their home. A successful and positive community comes about when neighbors attend to each others rights which could ultimately change the environment of the whole area. There are many rights afforded to neighbors which make Islamic building codes, and etiquette to neighbors when cooking or after having purchased fruit.
Narrated Samurah : The Messenger of Allah said: “The neighbor of a home has more right to the home.” – Tirmidhi.
The rights are actually so great that they are stressed in the Sunnah.
Mujahid narrated: “Abdullah bin Amr had a sheep slaughtered for his family, so when he came he said: ‘Have you given some to our neighbor, the Jew? Have you given some to our neighbor, the Jew? I heard the Messenger of Allah saying: ‘Jibril continued to advise me about (treating) the neighbors so (kindly and politely), that I thought he would order me (from Allah) to make them heirs.” -Tirmidhi.
The book Leadership Lessons from the Life of Rasoolullah: Proven Techniques of How to Succeed in Today’s World by Shaykh Mirza Yawar Baig goes on to list these rights in detail which the Messenger of Allah narrated to the Sahaba, which we should bear in mind to maintain such honorable and noble tradition even as hard as it can be, in our modern style communities:
1. Assist him when he asks for assistance.
2. Give him a loan if he needs it.
3. Help him if he is needy.
4. Visit him when he is ill.
5. Accompany his funeral when he dies.
6. Congratulate him on happy occasions.
7. Console him in adversity.
8. Do not build your house higher than his without his permission lest his ventilation is obstructed.
9. If you buy fruits, send some for him as a present. If you cannot do so, take the fruit into your house concealed so that he cannot see it. Don’t allow your children to take it out and eat openly in case his children see it and become grieved.
10. Don’t let the smoke from your house get into his house causing him annoyance.
I was 21 and living in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. It was a bad time to be a Muslim. But after four years of studying, poking and prodding at world religions and their adherents, I decided to take the plunge.
Questions and answers
I am the product of a Creole Catholic and an Irish atheist. I grew up Catholic, then was agnostic, now I’m Muslim.
My journey to Islam began when I was about 15 years old in Mass and had questions about my faith. The answers from teachers and clergymen — don’t worry your pretty little head about it — didn’t satisfy me.
So I did what any red-blooded American would do: the opposite. I worried about it. For many years. I questioned the nature of religion, man and the universe.
After questioning everything I was taught to be true and digging through rhetoric, history and dogma, I found out about this strange thing called Islam. I learned that Islam is neither a culture nor a cult, nor could it be represented by one part of the world. I came to realize Islam is a world religion that teaches tolerance, justice and honor and promotes patience, modesty and balance.
As I studied the faith, I was surprised many of the tenants resonated with me. I was pleased to find that Islam teaches its adherents to honor all prophets, from Moses to Jesus to Mohammed, all of whom taught mankind to worship one God and to conduct ourselves with higher purpose.
I was drawn to Islam’s appeal to intellect and heartened by the prophet Mohammed’s quote, “The acquisition of knowledge is compulsory for every Muslim, whether male or female.”
I was astounded that science and rationality were embraced by Muslim thinkers such as Al-Khawarizmi, who invented algebra; Ibn Firnas, who developed the mechanics of flight before Leonardo DaVinci; and Abu al-Qasim al-Zahrawi, who is the father of modern surgery.
Here was a religion telling me to seek out answers and use my intellect to question the world around me.
Taking the plunge
It was 2001, and I had been putting off converting for a while. I feared what people would think but was utterly miserable. When 9/11 happened, the actions of the hijackers horrified me. But in its aftermath, I spent most of my time defending Muslims and their religion to people who were all too eager to paint a group of 1.6 billion people with one brush because of the actions of a few.
I was done being held hostage by the opinions of others. In defending Islam, I got over my fear and decided to join my brothers and sisters in the faith I believed in.
My family did not understand, but it wasn’t a surprise to them since I had been studying religion. Most were very concerned for my safety. Luckily, most of my friends were cool about it, and even curious to learn more.
Read the rest of this entry
The Importance and Methodology of Tarbiyah (Education & Upbringing)
by Shaikh Ahmed Aways
Tarbiyah in Islam is very important, for indeed all of the Deen is based upon tarbiyah (i.e. the education and upbringing of the people). This starts first of all with the education and training of our own selves, then of our families, and then of the community at large. But this tarbiyah is most important with respect to our children, so that they are brought up upon the correct path of Islam. Because of this, many of the scholars take care in discussing this aspect of tarbiyah more so than the others.
After the benefit of al-Islam and our very creation, from the best of benefits is that of having children. We see their benefits both in this world and after we have passed to the next. As for the benefits in this world – when a person becomes old and unable to earn a livelihood, all of his friends and companions leave him alone and it is his children who look after and care for him, bearing his problems and burdens. As for after his death, then a person benefits from his children as the Prophet said: “When the son of Adam passes away, all of his deeds are stopped except for three. Some kind of charity that is continuous, or knowledge which the people are benefiting from, or a righteous child who is praying for him.”
Also from the benefits of having children is that if they were to pass away whilst still children, they will intercede for their parents. This is authentically reported from the Prophet , who said: “There is no Muslim individual, male or female, who has three of his children pass away whilst they are young and he is patient with that, except that they will come and intercede for him on the Day of Judgment.” So ‘Umar asked, ‘What about two [children]?’ Upon this the Prophet said, “It is the same for two [children].” (Al-Bazzaar, al-Haakim. Sh. al-Albaanee mentions it in his book, Kitaabul-Janaa-iz)
As for the person who has one child who passes away and he is patient with this, seeking his reward from Allah , then he shall also find a great reward with Him. As in a hadeeth wherein it is reported that the Prophet used to sit down in his sitting place and his companions would sit in front of him to seek benefit and learn from him. From amongst them was a man who had a small boy; he used to come to the Prophet from behind his back by way of respect, then he used to sit in front of him and sit his son in front of the Prophet . The Prophet asked, “Do you love this child of yours?” The man replied, “Yes, and may Allah cause you to love him also.” Then it happened that this child passed away, and the man was so sad that he used to refrain from coming to sit with the Prophet . So the Prophet asked his companions about this man saying, “Why is it that he no longer comes to my sitting place?” And this was from the Sunnah of the Prophet , that if he had people who would come to him and then stop coming, he would ask about their condition and their affairs. So the companions told him that the man’s son had passed away and that he was sad because of that. So the Prophet went to meet this man and asked him, “What has happened to your son?” And the man told him that he had passed away. So the Prophet said, “Do you wish that your son could be here with you spending time with you, or do you prefer that your son would reach Paradise before you, waiting at the Doors of Paradise to open them for you?” So the man said, “O Messenger of Allah. I wish that my son would go forth before me and precede me to Paradise.” So the Prophet said to him, “Verily, this is for you.” So upon this, one of the companions said, “O Messenger of Allah, may I be sacrificed for your sake! Is this (reward) only for this man or is it for all of the people?” He said, “No, this reward is for all of the people (i.e. those who lose a child and are patient with their loss).” (Al-Haakim. Adh-Dhahabee declared it Saheeh as did Sh. Al-Albaanee)
Also from the benefits of having children is that if one has daughters and is patient with them, bringing them up correctly, then for him is a great reward from Allah. Our mother Aa’ishah said, “A woman with two daughters and who was very poor came to my door requesting charity. All I had was three dates, so I gave them to this woman and her two daughters. The woman gave a date to each of her daughters and kept the third date for herself. But when the two daughters had finished their dates, they both looked up to their mother wanting the date which she had. So she felt mercy for her two daughters and split the date into two halves, she gave a half to each of her daughters and then she went away. When the Prophet came back I informed him about what had happened. He said, ‘Anyone who has daughters and is good in bringing them up, then they will be as a barrier between him and the Hell-Fire’.” (Bukhari & Muslim)
It is obligatory for the parents to take care of their children as the responsibility for them is upon their shoulders. As the Prophet said, “All of you are shepherds and will are responsible for his flock.” Unfortunately, many of the people look down upon this affair of bringing up the children correctly and consider it as a small matter and unimportant, instead busying themselves which affairs such as politics and those things which it may be beyond their ability to reach. They look to those things which are seen as more important and so look down upon the affair of raising their children correctly. In this, they are mistaken, as whoever the Imam or the leader of the believers may be, even if he was the most righteous of all righteous people and the most just of all rulers, if a person does not take care of their own affairs then no-one else is going to come into their house and look after their children for them. And if this Imam was the worst of all the people, yet a person was to take care of their own family as is his responsibility, then how is his harm and his condition going to affect that person? Allah says,
“Verily! Allah will not change the good condition of a people as long as they do not change their state of goodness themselves.” [Qur’an Ra’d 13:11]
So it is upon us to change our own condition and the condition of our own families, and then to look to the condition of our communities and the community of the Muslims at large. For if we were to neglect this responsibility then we would never achieve the correct tarbiyah – training, upbringing and education – of our societies.
Indeed the Book of Allah (Qur’an) and the Sunnah of the Prophet encourage us to bring up our children correctly; ordering us with righteousness and good conduct ourselves as well as ordering us to prevent our families from falling into that which would result in their own destruction. As Allah says,
“O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones.” [Qur’an Tahrim 66:6]
And He says,
“And enjoin Prayer on your family, and be patient in offering them (i.e. the Prayers).” [Qur’an Ta-Ha 20:132]
The Prophet said, “Order your children with Salah when they are seven years old, and beat them upon it (i.e. force them to do so by hitting them) when they are ten years old, and (also) separate them in their sleeping place.” So by the preceding Ayat and hadeeth, Allah and the Prophet teach the believers about the importance of Salah and worship, and also in the hadeeth the Prophet is teaching his Ummah about how to live this life free from all types of doubts and misconceptions, by avoiding those places and situations where such doubts and misconceptions may arise. So the order is that one should raise one’s children upon the most blessed and praiseworthy of characteristics.
So what follows are some practical steps in bringing up the family correctly.
Seeking Righteous Children
When an individual wants to get married, they should have the intention to have – and ask Allah to give them – righteous children. They should be patient upon this and seek their children with the correct intention i.e. to increase the number of the Prophet’s Ummah, and seek Allah’s reward in this life and the Hereafter by way of his children. As the Prophet said, “Marry those women who are loving and fertile, for verily I want to be amongst those (Prophets) who have the most followers on the Day of Judgement.” So when a person gets married he should seek children with the intention to have many children which will go towards making up the Ummah of the Prophet and that these children may become righteous slaves of Allah so that he may benefit from them in this world and the Hereafter. This is because the intention has a special and important place with regard to the outcome, as the Prophet said, “Verily, every action is by its intention.” So if one has the correct intention at the beginning of the action, then he has its correct fruits at the end.
Setting A Good Example
The parent should be a good and the best example for their children. They should hasten to do all good and, likewise, hasten to leave all evil. This is because children follow the example of their parents as they love them and respect and admire them. So the parents are the greatest of all examples for their children. Therefore, whatever the parents are upon, the children follow them. It is not possible, however one may try, to hide one’s evil characteristics from their children. A person may go into his home, closing the door behind them, but it is the children who know the reality of their affairs. They know how their character truly is, what they watch and what they see, and they know their situation perfectly. So we should try and be good examples to our children; having the best characteristics, being good towards the people, and remaining upright in our Deen.
Placing Importance Upon The Deen
The parent should make the most important affair in his life and that of his child the Religion. They should raise their child to know that the most important aspect of his life is that he be upright in his Deen, correcting it and clinging to it firmly. Allah said,
“And this (submission to Allah, Islam) was enjoined by Ibrahem upon his sons and by Ya’qoob (as), (saying), ‘O my sons! Allah has chosen for you the (true) Religion, then die not except in the Faith of Islam.” [Qur’an Baqarah 2:132]
And He says,
“And he made it (i.e. Laa ilaha illAllah – none has the right to be worshipped but Allah Alone) a Word lasting among his offspring (True Monotheism), that they may turn back (i.e. repent to Allah or receive admonition).” [Qur’an Zukhruf 43:28]
So this should be our greatest concern with regard to our children, that we make clear to them the importance of their Religion and their being upright. We should not be concerned with their Dunya i.e. that they bring home food or drink or wealth, rather we should be most concerned with their remaining upright Muslims. After this, the believer should make du’a to Allah and supplicate to Him that He guide his children and make them upright, for indeed there is no power nor strength except in Allah. No one has the ability to guide his children himself, or to keep them upon the straight path, rather this is in the Hands of Allah. So one should make du’a to Allah as His prophets did before. Allah says that the believers say,
“Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqoon (i.e. pious and righteous persons who fear Allah much [abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds which He has forbidden] and love Allah much [perform all kinds of good deeds which He has ordained]).” [Qur’an Furqan 25:74]
And also Prophet Ibrahem (as) mentioned in a long du’a,
“O my Lord! Make me one who offers prayers perfectly, and (also) from my offspring, our Lord! And accept my invocation.” [Qur’an Ibrahim 14:40]
So we should follow this example of the prophets in making du’a to Allah and taking the necessary steps in educating and bringing up our children upon this Deen, and asking Allah to keep them upright in their Religion. The Ayah which was previously mentioned is general for all of the believers. That is, that when one reaches the age of 40 he should make du’a for his parents and that Allah should keep him upon the Guidance, and he also makes du’a that Allah keeps his children upright and correct their affairs.
Showing Love & Kindness Towards One’s Children
The parent should control his affair with love, kindness and softness, and should not always use harshness and beating to bring up his children. Rather, he should make his way to be primarily a loving and concerned way. However, if the situation requires that he should also use harshness and hardness and even hitting his children, then he should do so as and when the situation requires it, but he should not make this his way i.e. that he is always hard and harsh towards his children. We should not be like those people who are always hard upon their children as this may lead them towards further corruption and going astray. Neither should we be like many of the Europeans are i.e. that they leave their children without any discipline so that they follow whatever way they like and do whatever they like. Rather we should take the middle course (balanced), sometimes using harshness and sometimes softness, according to the situation. We should always try to exercise balance in raising our children, balancing their affairs correctly and making the uppermost characteristic that of kindness, softness and mercy.
Teaching Good Character
The parent should raise his children upon good character from a young age. He should teach them the Qur’an, the Seerah of the Prophet and that of the Companions also (ra). One should not leave his children to continue making mistakes saying that he will correct them when they get older, because indeed it becomes increasingly more difficult to correct a person when he has grown up upon incorrect actions and bad characteristics. As a poet said, “Whoever grows up upon something, he grows old upon that same thing.” So we should teach our children from a young age the correct Aqeedah and belief, for example that Allah is above His Throne, and we should teach them love for the Prophet and his Companions (ra). We should also teach them aspects of good character, like being courageous, kind, generous and modest etc. Then if one of our children makes a mistake, we should point out this mistake to them and explain that the action is wrong, not leaving them and saying ‘they are just children’ or that we will tell them when they grow older. This is because of the saying, “Whoever grows up upon something, he grows old upon that that same thing.” And from the guidance of the Prophet is that he used to train and bring up the children from a young age upon good manners and character. As can be seen in the hadeeth of Hasan , in which he narrates how he once took a date from the dates of Sadaqa, and the Prophet shouted at him and told him to take the date out of his mouth. The Prophet explained to him that the dates were for Sadaqa, and that Sadaqa was not allowed for the Prophet or his family. So the Prophet did not leave Hasan alone, rather he reprimanded him for what he did and explained to him the correct way, using intelligence and Hikmah. Likewise in the hadith of the son of Umm Salamah, who narrated that he used to stay in the house of the Prophet , and that he used to eat in an incorrect way i.e. from everywhere in the plate. So the Prophet said to him, “O boy! Mention Allah’s Name i.e. say ‘Bismillah’, eat with your right hand and eat that which is in front of you. So this Sahabah went on to narrate that he continued to practise this etiquette of eating until that day (i.e. until he had become older). This shows that the Prophet would correct the children by pointing out their mistakes, and also he did so in such a way that they would continue upon the correct way which he had taught them until they became older.
Exercising Justice With Regard To One’s Children
The parent should not oppress or wrong any of his children. He should not show one of his children due favour more so than the other, by giving him more than his other children or praising him more than any of the others. Indeed this type of oppression and favouritism can be a reason for the children swaying from the correct path and developing personal problems later on in life. The Prophet said, “Fear Allah and be just with regard to your children.” Indeed, being just can positively affect the children’s tarbiyah, just as being unjust can have negative affects upon their tarbiyah. Of these negative effects is that the child may feel that if he cannot find justice with his own parents, then who can he find justice with? And he may carry this problem and this feeling in his heart all of his life.
Spending Upon One’s Children
The parents, both the mother and the father, should spend upon their children. They should take the necessary steps to earn money and spend upon their children correctly. Indeed, anything, which one spends upon his family with the correct intention, will have a reward for it. As in the hadeeth of Sa’d ibn Ma’aadh , who narrated that the Prophet said, “There is nothing that you spend upon your families, even the food that you put into the mouth of your wife, except that you will get a reward for it.” Also there is a hadeeth which is collected by Muslim, which states the importance of spending upon the family and that it is the best of all actions with which one draws nearer to Allah . In this hadeeth the Prophet said, “Two dinaars which you spend in the way of Allah, or two dinaars which you spend by way of sadaqah (charity), or two dinaars which you give to the miskeen (poor), or the two dinaars which you give to your family – with which of these is the greatest reward? Indeed the greatest of these as regards reward is that dinaar which you spend upon your family.”
So, in conclusion, everyone should take care of his family, for if it were the case that everyone in society were to take care of the upbringing of their families and their financial needs, then this would be good for the society as a whole. And if everyone were to leave the affairs of their families and their children, then this would lead to the corruption of the society and poverty would be widespread. By spending upon our families and taking care of their tarbiyah, this is how we train them and help them to remain upright upon this Deen of Al-Islam.
by : Muhammad Nur Ibn ‘Abd Al-Hafizh Suwayd
to implant the Islamic Creed (`Aqidah) in his mind; and to teach him how to perform the main pillars of worship. It is an educational system which is entirely derived from the guidance of the Prophet (peace be upon him).
by : Abdullah Nasir al Ulwan
This book outlines the basic Islamic concepts in child education. The author has tried to coordiante the main ideas, as well as the basics precepts for raising Muslim children in all the different spheres of life. First of all, the importance of correct belief and faith cannot be inculcated in young children except through the teaching and example of their parents; and obviously, the role of the mature and religious mo…ther is foremost.
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by : M. Yasar Kandemir
Our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him), who brought us the Qur’an or the commands of our Lord, explained to us these Divine commands through his hadith. He taught us through his sayings what we need to do in order to be happy both in this life and in the Hereafter….
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This booklet presents the necessary advice about building up such a home. Acquiring this information would enable you to make of your home the most enjoyable place for yourself and your family. … download from here
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The issue of Women in Islaam has been the subject of all kinds of controversies,misunderstandings and especially misinformation. This work will discuss and explain this subject according to the precise teachings of the Qur’aan and the Sunnah (sayings, acts, i.e., the traditions) of Allah’s Messenger
The Qur’aan speaks of similarity in terms of creation. God tells us that He created a single soul and from it its mate, then He made countless men and women from those two (see Qur’aan 4:1). The Qur’aan does not contain the belief that the man alone is created in the image of God.
Because of this fundamental similarity between men and women, the Qur’aan declares that women have rights similar to the rights against them according to what is equitable (Qur’aan 2:228). Read the rest of this entry
This is the second part in the series of cartoon animations created and produced by Discover Islam UK with the aim of assisting Primary Schools in educating children about Islam through the use of educational media. This cartoon animation has been played throughout many Primary Schools in London and was very well received by both pupils and teaching staff.
however, addresses an aspect of child-rearing that is vitally important, and is not touched upon in the mainstream selections that we are so familiar with. In her book, Dr. Hamdan clearly and in no uncertain terms explains the importance of instilling in our children a strong connection to their Creator and a love for the religion that He has chosen for us and them. From this book, you will learn the what, why, and the how of raising a righteous and faithul Muslim child.
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If a couple differs in their Islamic perceptions. One who grow up in the West and the other in the East. And they quarrel constantly and can’t come to an agreement. At what point is talaq considered? Is it wrong for a sister to ask for talaq? Will she be punished on the Day of Judgment? Does the Arsh of Ar-Rahman shake once talaq is asked for? This is what one sister, growing up the West is being told by her husband from the East.
Jazak Allah khayr for your response.
All Praises are Due to Allah
The divorce of a Muslimah from her husband is an affair which is loathsome to Allah and not a praise worthy event. This is due to the Read the rest of this entry
When marriage is spoken of during these “modern” times, Muslims become horrified, conjuring images of an arranged marriage, trying to find that “perfect” companion, how much of a financial burden it will become, and so on. The reality is that Islam came to solve these problems, not exacerbate them, yet unfortunately we have integrated our local traditions and customs with Islam so that marriage has become a major concern for a man rather than a delightful experience. When living in a free, perverted and corrupt Western society, the Muslim male youth finds many temptations and tests, as a result of mixing with females, which he must face and overcome. He must constantly resist these temptations, which are thrown at him in the streets, on the media, and at work. And so the wisdom of the Prophet (s.a.w) echoes on, when he said: Read the rest of this entry
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Have you had a meaningful conversation together? Do you know what your child accomplished today, how he may be feeling, whether or not he has any concerns? Does your child know that you care about him?
In Islam, the ties of kinship and family are very strong and something that will always be present throughout our lifetime. There are very serious Read the rest of this entry
The ideal Muslim woman and her relationship with her husband.
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All praise is due to Allaah, Lord of all the worlds. Peace and blessings be upon the Messenger, his household and companions. Fellow Muslims! Fear Allaah as He should be feared. Fear of Allaah is a reminder for His devoted servants and it is safety from His punishment. Read the rest of this entry
Over 1400 years ago, when a child was born, the messenger (salAllahu alayhi wa sallam) made it his sunnah to take a small part of a date and place it in his mouth. He would then chew it until it was soft and then he would rub it onto the palate of the new born baby. This is called the tahneek.
Aaishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reports, “new-born children used to be brought to the Messenger of Allah and he would supplicate for blessings for them, and rub a chewed date upon their palate.” (Muslim)
Today, over 1400 years later – the BBC News has reported that “experts” have said – “A dose of sugar given as a gel rubbed into the inside of the cheek is a cheap and effective way to protect premature babies against brain damage” Read the rest of this entry
~*~55 Ways to Maintain a Happy Marriage~*
Marriage is a highly recommended Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (saw).
“And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; verily, in that are signs for people who reflect.” (Qur’an, 30:21)
“And marry those among you that are single and (also marry) the Salihun (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor Allah will enrich them out of His bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people).” [(Qur’an, 24:32) Read the rest of this entry
Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her; Mother of the
“I used to enter the building in which the Messenger of Allah and my father were buried while I was dressed lightly, saying: ‘These are
just my husband and father.’ However, when ‘Umar was buried, by Allah, I never entered
this building except that my clothing was wrapped tightly around my body, out of shyness from ‘Umar.”
May Allah have mercy on our Mother Aishah (Mother of the Believers) Ameen.
(Al-Hakim’s ‘Mustadrak’ (4/7), declared authentic)
Spread the knowledge so it will be Sadqa-e-Jaaria for you and for me… In’Shaa’Allah.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever directs someone to a good, then he will have the reward equal to the doer of the action.” [Muslim 1893]
The only two criteria for marriage are religion and character. Everything else is second to these two criteria. The problem for North American Muslims is that there is a focus on ethnicity, wealth and beauty. The merit of religion is seldom considered. Read the rest of this entry
1. Ibn Abbas (RA) said: The Prophet (SAW) used to seek refuge with Allah for Hasan and Husayn, and he said: “Your father (Ibraheem) used to seek refuge with (these words) for Ismaa‘eel and Ishaaq:
A‘oodhu bi kalimaat Illaahi’t-taammah min kulli shaytaanin wa haammah wa min kulli ‘aynin laammah.”
(I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allaah from every devil and every vermin, and from every bad eye)
[Al-Bukhaari 3371, Tirmidhi2060, Abu Dawood 4737]
2. Recite al-Mu‘awwidhatayn (the last two surahs of the Qur’an) over them, recite them into your hands and blow in them, then wipe them over whatever of their body one can reach. Read the rest of this entry