“…And live with them in kindness…”-Quran (4:19)
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” Ar-Rum 30:21)
“The best among you are those who are best to their wife. (Ibn Majah)
“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.” (Tirmidhi)
“The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman.” (Sahih Muslim 1467)
“…good women (are) for good men, and good men (are) for good women.”-Quran (24:26)
“And we created you in pairs.”-Quran (78:4)
Hazrat Umar Ibn Al Khattab (R.A.) said:
“No man can have anything better after faith (Iman) than a woman of righteous character, loving and child-bearing.”
Provide for her, protect her and take care of her:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women…”-Quran (4:34).
Look after her and your children:
“What you feed yourself is charity for you, what you feed your children is charity for you, what you feed your wife is charity for you, and what you feed your servant is charity for you.” (Musnad Ahmad 16727) You need to take care of them, look after them all.
Prophet (SAW) even encouraged people to feed their wives with their own hands, Prophet (SAW) many times fed Aisha (R.A.) this way. “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.” (Sahih Al Bukhari)
Express your love to her:
Anas (R.A.) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) was asked, ‘O Messenger of Allah, which of the people is most beloved to you?’
He answered: “`A’ishah.”
He was asked, ‘And among men?’
He said: ‘Her father.‘ (Ibn Majah and authenticated by Shayk Al-Albani)
Mu’aawiyah Ibn Haydah (R.A.) said: “I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah (SAW), what is the right of the wife of any one of us over us?’ He said: ‘That you should feed her as you feed yourself and clothe her as you clothe yourself, that you should not say to her “May Allah make your face ugly!” and that you should not beat her.” (Reported by Abu Dawood, 2/244; Ibn Maajah, 1850; Ahmad, 4/446). You need to feed her, provide for her and take care of her.
“Happiness. We speak of happiness. We spend our lives looking for it as if it’s our goal. I say no, happiness,entu if evally found, is a mode, an emotion on our journey, but never the destination. Happy or unhappy, you are heading for the grave. Are you sure that happiness in this life is what will benefit you in the afterlife?”
~ Shaykh Badruddin Yahya
Allâh loves As-Sâbirun (the patient). [The Holy Quran, 3:144]
”O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salât (the prayer). Truly! Allâh is with As-Sâbirun (the patient.)”
”And …certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sâbirun (the patient) .Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Truly! To Allâh we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.”
One of the great qualities of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was that he never took revenge on anyone for personal reasons and always forgave even his firm enemies.
His wife `A ishah reported that Allah s Messenger was not unseemly or obscene in his speech, nor was he loud-voiced in the streets, nor did he return evil for evil, but he would forgive and pardon.
The people of the Quraysh rebuked him, taunted and mocked at him, beat him and abused him. They tried to kill him and when he left for Madinah, they …