Monthly Archives: August 2016

4 secrets of a muslim wife for a happy life

4 Secrets of a Muslim Wife for a Happy Life!
There are many articles and books written about importance of marriage in Islam, duties of a wife and husband and etc. I am sure most of you read those not once and I won’t be repeating the same ahadith in this post. 
1. I would like to share a very different hadith which is usually not quoted when talking about this subject.
After the Battle of Uhud, the Muslims returned to Madinah and were tasked with the unfortunate difficulty of having to tell those who stayed behind, namely the women and children, about the loved ones they lost.
One such person was the Prophet’s (sallalahu aleihi wa sallam) cousin, Hamna bint Jahsh. Her mother and the Prophet’s (sallalahu aleihi wa sallam) father were siblings. Hamna (may Allah have mercy on her) had it tough.
She was first told she lost her brother. Hamna responded with duaa and patience.
She was then told she lost her uncle, and also responded with duaa and patience.
After a little while, someone came to inform her that she also lost her husband, Mus’ab bin Umayr. Upon hearing this news, she screamed and began weeping.
When the Prophet saw her situation, he said something truly remarkable. “A husband has a very special place in the heart of his wife. Marriage is a very profound and strong experience… a wife loves her husband very much, more than even he may realise.”
When the quarrels and hardships of the day take over our lives, we usually forget that indeed Allah has placed an immense love between a husband and wife. It is indeed a miraculous gift how two far and unrelated people became so close and caring of each other.
So anytime you are upset with your spouse or a married life, just remember this gift that Allah has granted you. Do not follow the anger and Shaytan whispers, but rather remember that it is a blessing to be next to your husband and have him in this world. 
2. I receive many of mails where sisters would share their stories of dealing with a tough, not religious, not following his duties husband and they would seek an advise of how to change him. I would always reply that only ALLAH can change hearts. Instead try to change yourself (there is always a room for improvement), be the best example yourself and never forget your salah and making Dua for the best in this Dunya and Akhira. As you know, my parents are not muslims (yet) and many times I would loose hope completely that they would ever embrace Islam… but then one simple Dua – and their hearts get more soft with each time. Thus focus on yourself and your relations with Allah, perfect these relations and yourself and in sha Allah, our Lord will take care of the rest! When your husband realizes that you are being humble and trying to avoid conflicts he will do the same and will have a big impression about you. 
3. Do not compare your life to others especially those couples who are all over social media writing their love letters to each other in the comments over the Instagram photo. As they say the best sign of healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook / Istangram / Snapchat (insert the necessary). 
We are all different and especially our men are different and surely second to none 🙂 Your husband may not be publicly writing poems to you on FB but instead he would be patient with you and this is how he shows his love. Or he would always make dua for your place in Jannah with him and none but Allah knows about it.
We are all different and Allah has blessed each of us with our spouses in a unique way. Be grateful for the blessings you are given and thank your Lord every day and in sha Allah you will be increased! 
And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; (Chapter (14) sūrat ib’rāhīm (Abraham). Sahih International)
4. Rasulullah [Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam] said: “The woman who reads her five prayers, fasts in the month of Ramadhan, protects her chastity and is obedient to her I husband; such a woman will enter into Jannah from any of the doors she wishes to enter from’’ 
If you look at this list, it seems easy and difficult at the same time. We all do fast, pray and guide our chastity but how can we be obedient to our husbands at all times because most of the times they are simply not right? Well, noone said the Jannah is easy. Being obedient to your husband means a happy family. Happy family means happy children. The family is the nucleus of civilization and the basic social unit of society. Having happy and healthy families will make our ummah strong! And all this huge task is starting from an obedient woman sunhanallah! Indeed the only fair reward for this duty may be Jannah in sha Allah. How Just our Creator is!
So let these above 4 points be your secrets to a happier and righteous life. 

Once you start living a life like that you see the change in your husband and yourself which would definitely make your love story like that which are read in books bidihnillah.

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Advices for Married couples 

An Advice for Married Brother and Sisters ❤
And my advices 🙂

– Avoid negative thinkings

– Help each other getting more closer to Allah

Via doing tahajjud, charity.

– Give time to each other, ur lifepartner doesn’t want all money, suited person… she expects and wants ur time and ur strictness on deen after she found ppl looking very handsome,suited, successful and professional but with alot low personality like dishonesty, soft porn addicted and liars.. so be true muslim 

– Give ur time to deen, by both participating at Islamic events

– Have plan for training and presenting dawah activist and severs of this deen children/kids to society

If not we would be loser after death coz if not islamic they would b gangster and disrespectful persons…
And above was advices from a single bro 🙂

Now u can share ur own advices and effective ways of living more with love and in circle of islam for ur married Muslim bro and sisters.

A believer can’t lie 

Lying is one of the characteristics of the hypocrites, and it is a blameworthy trait which encourages one to commit evil and prevents one from doing good. Al-Bukhaari (6094) and Muslim (2607) narrated that Ibn Mas‘ood (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I enjoin you to be truthful, for truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man may continue to tell the truth and endeavour to be truthful until he is recorded with Allah as a speaker of truth. And beware of lying, for lying leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to Hell. A man may continue to tell lies and endeavour to tell lies, until he is recorded with Allah as a liar.” 
Assim Al Hakeem

Loving ur life partner for the sake of Allah swt 

After the Battle of Uhud, the Muslims returned to Madinah and were tasked with the unfortunate difficulty of having to tell those who stayed behind, namely the women and children, about the loved ones they lost.
One such person was the Prophet (S)’s cousin, Hamna bint Jahsh. Her mother and the Prophet (S)’s father were siblings. Hamna (R) had it tough. 
She was first told she lost her brother. Hamna responded with duaa and patience.
She was then told she lost her uncle, and also responded with duaa and patience.
After a little while, someone came to inform her that she also lost her husband, Mus’ab bin Umayr. Upon hearing this news, she screamed and began weeping.
When the Prophet saw her situation, he said something truly remarkable. “A husband has a very special place in the heart of his wife. Marriage is a very profound and strong experience… a wife loves her husband very much, more than even he may realize.”

Sometimes we deal with things in accordance to what we perceive to be religious rhetoric, and respond with what we believe the Prophet (S) would have said. If a woman were to get the news of her husband’s death and she broke down crying, we might say, “Have sabr, have patience. Don’t cry. Everything will be okay. Trust Allah.”
And what we’re saying isn’t wrong- she should, and probably will, come to internalize all those things. But what are we doing in the process? We’re minimizing her grief, and not acknowledging her suffering. We’re not the ones who lost a family member right now, she did- so it’s easy for us to say “have patience.”
What do we mean by “have patience”?! Have we ever gotten the news that our world just completely fell apart? That we just became widowed, and our children became orphaned?
If anybody could tell somebody else to be patient, who would it have been? Muhammad (S), our prophet, the Messenger of Allah. The man who suffered and lived through the deaths of 6 of his children. Can you imagine going through that pain 6 times in your life? Shrouding 6 of your children?
If anybody had the credibility, license, and ability to tell someone else to be patient throughout loss and suffering, it was the Prophet (S). But instead, he (S), in his wisdom, chose to respond in a different way.
He acknowledged her pain and validated her. He honored her marriage and complimented her relationship with the man she lost. Everything else will come with time. This is how you have empathy. And this… this is how you console people. Abdul Nasir Jangda

Sharia 


There are about 6,236 verses in the Quran and ONLY 80 verses of those 6,236 deal with the penal system in ISLAM which is the first thing people think about when you mention the word Sharia(God’s law) because of people being conditioned to fear Islam based on false information and lies being fed to them.
Sharia is Islam and Islam is Sharia and you can’t separate the two.

Try getting to know the other 6,156 verses in the Quran that talk to you directly from your Creator and about ONLY worshiping ONE God alone, Mercy, Justice, Charity, Prayer, taking care of the orphans, honouring your parents, being good and kind, being morally upright, being chaste, the day of judgement, Paradise and Hellfire, so many other amazing things that you’re losing out on by not reading sincerely and connecting with the verbatim word of God the QURAN.
There is no other book like it in the world, try and put it to the test!

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Signs of weak faith

​🌸 Signs of weak Faith:
Committing sins and not feeling any guilt.

Having a hard heart and no desire to read the Quran.
Feeling too lazy to do good deeds, e.g. being late for salat
Neglecting the Sunnah.
Having mood swings, for instance being upset about petty things and bothered and irritated most of the time.
Not feeling anything when hearing verses from the Quran, for example when Allah warns us of punishments and His promise of glad tidings.
Finding difficulty in remembering Allah and making dhikr.
Not feeling bad when things are done against the Shariah.
Desiring status and wealth.
Being mean and miserly, i.e. not wanting to part with wealth.
Ordering others to do good deeds when not practising them ourselves.
Feeling pleased when things are not progressing for others.
Being concerned with whether something is haram or halal only; and not avoiding makroo (not recommended) things.
Making fun of people who do simple good deeds, like cleaning the mosque.
Not feeling concerned about the situation of Muslims.
Not feeling the responsibility to do something to promote Islam.
Liking to argue just for the sake of arguing without any proof.
Becoming engrossed and very involved with dunya, worldly things, i.e. feeling bad only when losing something in terms of material wealth.
Becoming engrossed and obsessive about ourselves.