choosing the right friends and companions

The task of choosing the right friends and companions is essential to preserving our identity. Befriending righteous and virtuous muslims is one of the prerequisites for staying on the Straight Path and pleasing Allah (swt). Islam has given us a road map to navigate through our lives in order to succeed both in Dunya and Akhirah. We must always abide by the hukm sharai’ in all aspects of our lives… and choosing the right friends is no exception.
Maintaining the correct atmosphere is vital for a Muslim to be able to avoid deviation from the right path. The type of atmosphere that
exists amongst some of the youth today is corrupt, where the topics of discussion usually revolve around the opposite sex, showing off to each other, envy, jealousy and being fake. This type of atmosphere only serves to agitate the nafs of people and can potentially lead them further away from Islam.It was narrated that the Prophet (saw) said,
“The example of a good companion in comparison with a bad one is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith’s bellows (or furnace); from the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof.”[Bukhari]

A Muslim should choose friends who will advise him and remind him of Allah (swt) rather than lure him to the path of Shaytan. It is
therefore important for a Muslim to choose good friends.

It is important to always remind ourselves that our purpose in this life is to carry Islam to everybody and show them the right path –
to rid themselves of the misery of man-made systems, thereby achieving the pleasure of Allah (swt). We have to be aware of our purpose in this life and what may influence our adherence to Islam. Friendship plays a major influence in our lives, and so choosing good friends is not a trivial matter. Allah (swt) revealed

“O you who believe, take not into intimacy those outside your ranks: they will not fail to corrupt you.”[TMQ 3:118]

Weakness is part of human nature and being surrounded by friends who have no ties to the values of Islam is a slippery slope with one known outcome – slipping away from the right path and losing one’s Deen.

Instead of making friends with the misguided people we should befriend the righteous and treat the rest in a gracious and just manner.

Staying at a sufficient distance is necessary; yet treating everybody in a noble and kind manner is also required. So let us take heed before the inevitable Day when we are called to account for our actions. Allah (swt) says:

“Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except al-Muttaqoon (i.e.pious, those who have Taqwah).”[TMQ 43:67]

Islam recognizes that friends have a strong influence on people and that their presence will affect the strength of their relationship with Allah (swt).

The Prophet (saw) said: “A person follows the Deen (way of life) of his close friend; therefore let each of you look carefully at whom he chooses for friends.”[Tirmidhi]

Co-operate with each other in righteousness and piety, not in sin and hostility. Have fear of God; He is stern in His retribution.

(Al- Maedah chapter 5 ayah 2)


About Abdullah

Analytical & Creative. --- I'm not a Sheikh or a scholar, I'm just a regular guy in love with this Deen. Don't praise me for practicing my Deen. But pray for me, for the errors, that you haven't seen.

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